Being a good daddy isn’t an objective thing, unfortunately. Every little is unique and will require different care and support, and varying levels of attention.
Little #1 will request ALL of your attention ALL of the time, with no exceptions. This is the most difficult little to keep up with, but they are also the most loving and caring, and want nothing more than to spend time with their daddies.
Little #2 may require lots of personal space and free time to themselves. This is a more rare occurrence, but it certainly does happen, and it’s very important to respect those boundaries when they set them.
So on, and so forth.
A general rule of thumb is to simply listen to your little. If they want you to do something differently, they may blatantly say it, or in some cases, act in a way that might get you to do that thing. If a little needs more order and you aren’t being strict enough, they may begin to act bratty and do things that will ultimately lead to punishment. There is usually a reason for every behavior.
Another good rule to follow, would be to make sure you’re getting the care you need as well. Some daddies might not enjoy their little constantly being with them, and some daddies might absolutely adore it. Your little is your partner as well, and you should work together to find a balance that can suit you both.
Don’t forget, you are your little’s caregiver, and you can also be their best friend. If your little likes video games, try to play with them. If they enjoy reading, maybe set up a little reward system for reading a whole book in a week.
Being a couple, fights are likely to happen. When these do, depending on the regression age of your little, this could cause them to panic and possibly try to even run from you. If this happens, you need to try and calm them down to the best of your ability. You can make up with them when they’re calmed down, and preferably in a big state of mind. A conflict with a little in little space will usually only end badly for everyone.
Aside from all of those, being a daddy is something you’ll just have to figure out with your little over time. Just like any relationship, it needs to be built on trust, consent, and an understanding of the other’s needs and wants. It’s never okay to be selfish to the extent that you make the other person unhappy or frustrated. Being in a relationship is tough. Being in a relationship with a little is tougher. But I can confidently say that it’s been the most rewarding experience of my life.
-Daddy
